Couple Therapy in Washington state

Do you feel like you're drifting apart from your partner?

You're not failing at your relationship—you just need better tools

Maybe you remember when things were good. When you talked for hours, when you made each other laugh, when you felt like a team. But somewhere along the way, something shifted. Now you're living parallel lives under the same roof. Conversations stay surface-level or turn into arguments. You look at your partner and wonder if you even know them anymore—or if they know you.

You might be arguing constantly, or maybe you've stopped fighting because it feels pointless. One of you reaches out and the other pulls away. You're exhausted from the same conflicts repeating endlessly with no resolution. You've tried talking about it, but nothing changes. You feel lonely, frustrated, unheard, and unsure if your relationship can survive this.

The distance between you keeps growing, and you don't know how to close it. You're wondering if therapy can help—or if it's already too late.

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Are you fighting about the same things over and over?

Money. Parenting. In-laws. Housework. Quality time. The topics might change, but the underlying conflict stays the same. You've had the same argument a hundred times, and nothing ever gets resolved. You're exhausted from repeating yourself, from not being heard, from your needs being dismissed or misunderstood.

Maybe you fight about how to discipline the kids, what to spend money on, how to split household responsibilities, or how often you're intimate. One person feels like they're doing everything while the other feels criticized no matter what they do. Resentment builds. Score-keeping starts. You stop being partners and start being adversaries.

Or perhaps you're not fighting about big things—you're fighting about everything. Who forgot to pick something up, whose turn it is to handle dinner, whether the comment they made was disrespectful. Small irritations become major conflicts because the underlying issues—feeling unappreciated, unvalued, unloved, or overwhelmed—never get addressed.

You're stuck in patterns that don't serve you, but you don't have the tools to create new ones. You need help breaking these cycles before they break your relationship.

Are you struggling with communication and frequent conflict?

Every conversation seems to turn into an argument. Small disagreements escalate into full-blown fights. You can't discuss money, parenting, or household responsibilities without tension rising immediately. One of you criticizes, the other gets defensive, and suddenly you're in a battle neither of you wanted.

You say one thing, your partner hears something completely different. You try to explain your feelings, and they tell you you're wrong or too sensitive. They share their perspective, and you feel attacked or blamed. Nobody's really listening—you're both just waiting for your turn to defend yourself or prove the other person wrong.

Maybe one of you shuts down, walks away, or gives the silent treatment when conflict arises. Maybe the other pursues, demands answers, or can't let things go. The pattern is predictable and destructive, but you don't know how to break it. You're stuck in a cycle where trying to connect leads to disconnection, and trying to be heard leads to more misunderstanding.

You love each other, but you're speaking different languages. The communication breakdown is killing your relationship, and you're desperate for tools that actually work.

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We understand that relationship struggles don't mean you've failed—they mean you need support, guidance, and practical skills to reconnect. We offer couples therapy using evidence-based approaches that help you communicate effectively, rebuild trust, resolve conflicts, and rediscover the connection that brought you together. Whether you're in crisis or just feeling disconnected, we can help you build a stronger, healthier partnership.

Learn more about therapy for couples:

Gottman Method Couples Therapy

DBT for Couples

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What can we help couples with?

Communication & Conflict

  • Frequent arguing and fighting

  • Communication breakdown (not talking or only surface conversations)

  • One partner criticizes, the other gets defensive

  • Stonewalling or shutting down during conflict

  • Inability to resolve disagreements

  • Yelling, name-calling, or contemptuous communication

Life Transitions & Stressors

  • Adjusting to parenthood or pregnancy

  • Adjusting to an empty nest

  • Career changes or job loss

  • Financial stress or unemployment

  • Relocation or moving

  • Retirement

  • Illness or disability

  • Grief and loss (death of loved one, miscarriage)

Roles & Responsibilities

  • Unequal division of household labor

  • One partner feeling like they do everything

  • Resentment about domestic responsibilities

  • Work-life balance issues

  • Career vs. family priorities

  • Work stress affecting home life

Trust & Betrayal

  • Infidelity or affairs (emotional or physical)

  • Lying or dishonesty

  • Secrecy (hidden finances, passwords, activities)

  • Jealousy and suspicion

  • Broken promises

  • Difficulty trusting after past betrayals

Parenting & Family

  • Disagreements about parenting styles

  • Blended family challenges (stepchildren, co-parenting)

  • Deciding whether to have children

  • Struggles with infertility

  • Different values about discipline

  • Children with special needs or behavioral issues

  • Extended family conflicts

  • Interference from family or friends

Individual Issues Affecting the Relationship

  • Mental health struggles (depression, anxiety, PTSD)

  • Substance use or addiction

  • Anger management problems

  • Past trauma affecting current

  • Social media or technology issues

Intimacy & Connection

  • Loss of physical intimacy or sex

  • Mismatched sex drives or sexual desires

  • Feeling like roommates rather than partners

  • Emotional disconnection or distance

  • Loss of romance or affection

  • Different needs for closeness vs. independence

Commitment & Future

  • One partner wants marriage, the other doesn't

  • Considering separation or divorce

  • Uncertainty about the relationship's future

  • Different life goals or values

  • Cultural or religious differences

Financial Issues

  • Disagreements about spending habits

  • Financial infidelity (hidden debt, secret purchases)

  • Different values about money (saver vs. spender)

  • Financial stress or debt

  • Arguments about budgeting

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How couples therapy helps rebuild your relationship

Couples therapy provides a safe, structured space where both partners can be heard, understood, and supported in creating positive change. We don't take sides or assign blame—we help you understand the patterns keeping you stuck and teach you the tools to create a relationship that works for both of you.

We teach you essential communication skills that actually work. Most couples fight not because they disagree, but because they don't know how to communicate about disagreements productively. We teach you how to express your needs without criticism or contempt, how to listen to understand rather than to defend, how to validate your partner's feelings even when you disagree, and how to repair after conflict happens. These aren't abstract concepts—we practice them in session until they become natural. Better communication is the foundation for everything else.

We help you identify and interrupt destructive patterns. Every couple has patterns—the ways you get stuck in the same conflicts or fail to connect. We help you see these patterns clearly: the pursue-withdraw dance where one person chases connection while the other distances, the criticism-defensiveness spiral where nobody feels heard, the silent treatment that shuts down resolution, or the flooding where emotions overwhelm productive conversation. Once you can see your patterns, you can choose to do something different. We give you tools to interrupt these cycles before they escalate.

We address the specific issues damaging your relationship. Whether you're struggling with trust after betrayal, disagreeing about parenting, dealing with extended family conflict, or processing grief and loss together, we provide targeted interventions for your unique challenges. We don't just talk about problems—we develop concrete action plans and practice new skills to address them. You'll leave each session with specific things to practice that move your relationship forward.